Mom Friends
Sometimes you just don’t know what you need until it brightens your doorstep.
“We all need one friend who understands what we are not saying”
I can distinctly remember embarking on my motherhood journey and looking to the left of me and the right of me, wondering why I didn’t have mom friends. I would question if maybe I did something wrong.
“Am I too early?” I would wonder. I would often find myself in a cycle of comparison weighing my value against other single women who were without child, lowering my value since I could no longer relate to them in particular aspects. It was a little daunting to think that I was taking this journey semi – alone. Mental isolation plagued me as I attempted to embrace this. new experience with the understanding that my relationships would shift.
Four and a half years into this experience, I can easily reflect and acknowledge God’s hand upon me throughout this journey. While I was isolating myself from my familiar friendships, a new one was emerging and I was resistant to the new; unsure of whether or notI could trust a new person in my circle, especially during such a sacred time. As time persisted, this emergent friend showed up for me in ways I would never ask or expect for someone to. Her friendship pervaded that line and translated to a sisterhood that I had longed for. A, once colleague seamlessly turned friend and sister who I can trust with my life. As the buds on this friendship were blossoming into something beautiful and I remained guarded, God threw another monkey wrench in to shake up my perception of “friend.” I did not know that she would be the spiritual sister I would need to openly rebuke me, yet pray for and with me during motherhood’s darkest and brighest moments.
These past couple of years of growing friendships with my mom friends, has certainly been a testament of God’s love, grace and mercy all over my life. It is, both, comforting and empowering to confidently walk through this journey alongside two solid women who I can unashamedly call my sister friends, who uphold me keep me together. They effortlessly model tenets of motherhood while making it look so easy! They say that “birds of a feather flock together,” and boy have I never been happier to be called the bird! LOL
